Behavior vs. Truth

One of our favorite verses is Colossians 1:14. But let's look at the couple verses leading up to that... "being strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy; giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in light. He has delivered us from the domain of darkness and transferred us to the kingdom of his beloved Son, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins." It is God himself who is doing the work in and through you. Be joyous in your relationship with the Lord. Peggy is concerned for her loved one and doesn't know whether they are saved or not.I find my husband lying to me and justifying it because he's saved. What can I do?Are we supposed to do what the Apostles did as well as what Jesus did?